Life and relationships are such similar things, - to be happy you need to put in your heart and soul into it, give it your best shot and leave the rest to fate! To have a special someone to share your life with makes life worthwhile, but what happens when the circumstances force you to stay apart...Most of the people get scared by the mention of long distance relationships, some of them dread it, and the optimists go against the tide...battle it everyday, every moment till the end.
Keeping any relationship alive and kicking is one hell of a job and the distance just makes it tougher. Forget meeting each other everyday or romantic outings, even regular emails, calls or letters cannot be guaranteed. Petty misunderstandings that you could usually erase with a simple hug can last for days or even weeks. Well then what is so great about long distance relationships you ask...well great I don't know, but like every other thing, there is an upside to long distance relationships for sure!
First things first, you can think of surviving a long-distance relationship only and only if you are the kind of person who is ready for real commitment or at least ready to work towards a long-term relationship. Long distance relationships test you inside out and upside down! Be ready to juggle your routine chores, workload, your friends and family and your loved one all at the same time! If you thought mood swings could create problems in normal relationships, the distance will make it even worse. There will be times when you are down right frustrated and dejected and your better half has the most cheerful story to share with you. You can't pretend to be interested (of course you'll be caught!) and hanging up the phone will be sacrilege! That is the thing, there is no right or wrong! Long distance relationships bring out the best or at times the worst in you...it is all about your perspective.
Although it is a common notion that people who have a long distance relationships lead two separate lives, it is quite possible for two people to stay in touch everyday, plan their schedule together, and share their lives in spite of the distance that separates them. While die-hard romantics like me would prefer to pen down mushy love letters and send them across the miles via snail mail, people certainly have more options today. Those who have been in a long-distance relationship will vouch for that fact that the Internet has been a true blessing! Go get one of those web-cams, log on to the messengers and exchange emails, although it might not be as good as the real deal, well again just like life, you need to stop sulking and make the most with what you have!
Long distance relationships, can actually be quite fun if two people are staying away for a short period of time, the duration is crucial but so is your attitude. Patience is one of the virtues that you will acquire if you learn to manage a long distance relationship. For some it is like a rough patch, which needs to be battled, while for others it becomes a way of life. Either ways, there is only one thing that makes the relationship work - The will to make it work! Long distance relationships and marriages work on the same principle - you need to master the art of adjustment, real well!
You miss each other, you struggle to catch up with each others' lives, you get hurt at times, yearn to be together, but the question is, how long can you survive it? From what I have learned I can assure you that if you think of it as a battle, you'll never survive it, accept it as a bond that holds you together and it will strengthen with time. Do not think of it as a difficult path that will lead you to your love, lose yourself in the journey and you will enjoy every moment of it - Bitter or sweet!
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